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Newtown United

What to say, what to do, how to help...

It’s difficult to write when you’re shaking. Writing is what I love to do however, so I sit here at my computer struggling to come up with what to say.  You see, I live in Newtown Ct.  I moved here from the New York City nine years ago with my husband and three children.  We are rattled to our core here.  We are also coming together in ways I never imagined possible. 

When I moved here I never imagined I would find friends like the people I have found here.  I had a core group of friends from childhood.  We remained close.  I was grateful.  They were enough – or so I thought.  Moving here in my 40’s, I assumed I’d make a number of acquaintances and casual friendships through my kids but that my childhood friends would remain my central rock.  I was wrong.  In my conversations with other friends in other towns I’m discovering we are unique – there is something special here – something until recently I thought I was the only one who noticed – now the world is seeing it.

A number of friends are saying that they never thought a school shooting could happen in Newtown.  I never felt that way.  Maybe it’s my city girl cynicism or maybe it’s because when my own son almost lost his life in a bizarre and freak accident seven years ago I was hit by the reality that “those people” to whom these things happen are in reality, all of us. That something of this magnitude, however, could happen here or anywhere, well, that is not something I have yet fully processed.

I know a family who lost a son in the shooting.  Not well; just socially.  I remember a conversation with the mom at a happy event a few months ago in which we discussed how different our siblings were from each other.  We marveled at these differences, laughing at how two children from the same family could be so dissimilar in so many fascinating ways.  I remember her husband’s dry wit and love of theatre – he too was a native New Yorker and through that we connected. 

My dear friend Abby, is a teacher at Sandy Hook.  Abby lived.  Abby corralled kids who were out in the hallway into her classroom in an effort to protect them.  I saw Abby on TV during Obama’s speech at our high school.  She looked exhausted and distraught .

A friend, needing to do something, started a grass roots group on Sunday called Newtown United.  We have come together to ensure that our town becomes known for more than just this tragedy.  We are diverse.  We all bring different thoughts to the table.  It’s not just about guns.  It’s about emotional wellbeing, parenting, compassion, violence, empathy and perhaps most importantly about learning to see things differently because without a fundamental shift in perception on all these topics little will change. 

For me, Obams hit the nail on the head when he said we are failing to protect our children.  However, I take it a step further.  I feel we are failing to protect our parents for if we are truly to “protect” our children in every sense of the word, we need to protect, educate, embrace and respect their parents.

So I will deal with the shaking and remain at my computer trying to figure out what to say, what to do , how to help.

 

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Toni Earnshaw December 21, 2012 at 01:40 PM
I can't attend evening meetings. How can I contact Newtown United via email to offer my support and skills? Can anyone help?
Suzy DeYoung December 21, 2012 at 02:53 PM
Hi Toni, If you email me your email I will add you to the list - thanks we need all the help we can get!
Marcus Poulin December 21, 2012 at 08:18 PM
Yet your gun control proposals won't even stop one more school shooting. 44 years of Federal Gun Control laws since Public Law 90-618 have worked REAL well!
JOAN SILACO December 25, 2012 at 10:26 AM
I WANT TO HELP. I WANT TO GET MORE POLITICALLY INVOVLED.I WANT TO GO TO WASH.DC.I HAVE ALREADY CALLED POLITICIANS AND WROTE TO THEM REGARDING ARTICLES I READ OR HAVING SEEN THEM ON TV. I AM LEAVING MY EMAIL M4LUCKY@AOL.COM BUT WOULD PREFER TO TALK ON THE PHONE.

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