Adam Lanza's Father: 'We Are in a State of Disbelief'

QuiverFullaKidz December 16, 2012 at 05:49 pm

In thi midst of this unbearable tragedy...you are "VICTIMS" too. Your heart must be heavy thinking of how a member of your family...your family member whom you LOVED...could have comitted such a heinous crime. There may not ever be answers to ease your conscious yet know...there is no earthly sorrow that heaven cannot heal. Our prayers are with the Lanza family! May you too find peace, comfort and strength in days to come.

Shelley Fox December 16, 2012 at 06:11 pm

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your extended family as you are victims too. Its such a tragedy that we often take time to place blame and point fingers. People often forget that one is not guilt by association. My heart breaks for you and everyone involved and I pray that one day everyone will find peace again. There are not perfect words other then trust in our Lord Jesus Christ and he will heal the pain and offer you the understanding you deserve.

JAD December 16, 2012 at 07:08 pm

You,and your other son Ryan,are in our hearts and prayers too! There is no understanding really why this happens. Please try and find peace,and
comfort as well.

Julane Grant December 16, 2012 at 07:09 pm

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Dee Baucher December 16, 2012 at 08:36 pm

This family had a disabled son who was identified with severe neuro-cognitive/ developmental issues since early in childhood. The mother was apparently struggling with care/management of this young man. What help was she receiving? What support and assistance did she have from the community, public health institutions, mental health professionals, her church or other associated groups? Over and over we learn of parents left to struggle alone, without adequate support, with young adults (particularly males) at a significant time of brain maturation where severe abnormalities often manifest with explosive and incomprehensible violence. Parents and caregivers of individuals with brain dysfunction - severe mental illness or other brain disorders - are impeded by our archaic "civil liberties"-based laws. They are unable to compel their "adult" children to accept necessary interventions, and they do not receive the comprehensive types of support and help in coping with the significant demands of this type of care. This mother may have had more financial resources than many others, but without adequate supportive interventions and viable alternatives for help with her son, she was flailing. Clearly, keeping guns (especially assault-type weapons) in her home was ill-conceived. But I imagine that this woman, coping with the chronic stress and pain of dealing with her disabled son 24/7, in isolation, was not using all her wits. Very sad.

Patti Norton December 16, 2012 at 10:11 pm

I am praying for you and your family.

Alison Wolf December 16, 2012 at 11:02 pm

I would say taking him to the gun range as a family activity was definitely not a good parenting choice. The entire community paid for that poor decision. His existing challenges were apparently recklessly exacerbated. Very sad, indeed.

Lydia Hall December 17, 2012 at 12:22 am

To the remaining Lanza family, I send my thoughts and prayers. It is horrible that Ryan was originally identified as the shooter. Be strong.

Laura Resendez December 17, 2012 at 06:17 pm

We as parents try to find the best in our children and also try to lead them to become their best. Unfortunately, I think this might have led you to a chronic disbelief that would not allow you to properly identify the huge risk you had at home not only for the family but for the entire community. My prayers are with you all... How would anyone else react in the face of a struggling and violent child? Maybe just the same... We only do the best we can and now we might learn from this unfortunate outcome.

Al Day December 17, 2012 at 09:47 pm

92% of male prisoners come from homes where the father is absent. Don't know the circumstances but no father should let his son be raised by a single mother. Never. Especially with these type mental and health issues. nuff said.

Cynthia Rose December 18, 2012 at 06:23 am

My condolences to you and your son on the loss of your family. Stay strong. It is unfortunate that your family is being torn apart. People do not understand. They cannot because they have not lived your lives. It is tragic for all involved, including your son, Adam. I wish you peace of mind.

dutch4u2 December 18, 2012 at 07:47 pm

@Al Day 4.47pm Dec. 17
What an ugly and mysogenic statement. A very wealthy family with all available resources stayed together in marriage for 17 years until divorced in 2009.